Huge jets cast their shadows over the road near the Hartsfield-Jackson Atlanta International Airport, as I was dropping my son and his friend off at the airport just a while ago. He is heading back to McAllen, Texas as I write this post. My emotions were deeply stirring as I said my goodbyes to my son and his friend from Thailand. Minutes prior to leaving for the airport we had been watching memorials of that fateful day a decade ago. The tragedy of 9/11 produced a deep wound in our country with rippling effects throughout the world. Most of us remember with clarity the place we were, the immense feelings of loss and despair we felt when that tragic incident changed us and our model of the world forever. Our spirits were brought down along with the twin towers and all of those souls who lost their lives in this catastrophe.


Driving back home from the airport, blue skies above me, I remembered the ‘friendly skies’ slogan. How did it feel before 9/11 when the skies did feel friendlier? What have we learned in the 10 years since? How can we transcend and truly heal as individuals, communities, states and the many diverse countries of our beautiful world? How can we co-create a peaceful and loving planet allowing all people to thrive?




Truly, I choose love, forgiveness and peace as often as I can. I have adapted a new consciousness that has come from a lot of inner work, and a choice to, as Gandhi put it, “be the change you want to see in the world.” This is not always the easiest of tasks, and my ego often gets in front of me and blocks me from my higher aspirations. I am, as we all are, ‘only human’. Or, perhaps, there is more to the story than being ‘only human’? It is my opinion that we are all spiritual beings experiencing a human existence. It is in accepting that divinity within, and allowing ourselves to be guided by this amazingly loving ‘energy’ of the God of our understanding that we are able to realize that there is a divine purpose for everything. It is within our inner knowing that we can and must choose peace instead of war. We can and must choose love instead of fear and the hate fear can breed. The purpose or meaning behind the tragedy is something beyond what we see with human eyes or understand with human thought. It is a calling towards a higher consciousness.


As hard as it may seem to understand, each and every one of us must take responsibility for 9/11. For every time we choose anger, hate, greed and wrath against another, we are perpetuating despondent energy. Einstein once said, “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” We are called to stretch our beings, as human beings, and to ask ourselves what is really in it for us to hold the pain within us of an angry non-forgiving heart in any 9/11s of our experience?


So, today as we remember, let us not forget all of those souls who passed, as well as to remember their families and friends who are no longer able to hug their loved ones and say “I love you.” Let us now embrace each other in peace and gratitude for our oneness and our connection to each other, and let us love with all of our hearts and souls. Let us discover the enormous power that each and every one of us has within ourselves to move forward and to choose love. The Beatles had it right when they sang “and in the end the love you take is equal to the love you make.”


Shifting From Victim to Victor

 “Can you believe this happened to ME?” we ask others in righteous exasperation.  It becomes our  mantra when things happen to us beyond our seeming control.  An accident, health issues, money  problems, relationship woes, betrayal or divorce, all may elicit a knee jerk response and an  unhealthy helping of the “why me?” blues.  As we allow this type of thinking to grow and settle in  our brains and our psyches, we give all of our power away.  It is as if we believe some outside force,  other people, or the ‘powers that be’ has it in for us and has all the control rendering us helpless.    We subsequently throw our survival skills and optimism right out of the window.  We allow  ourselves to say things such as “I’m so unlucky”, or “this is not fair!”  We feel like puppets on a  string, and we just know that there must be a conspiracy against us by the puppeteer!  So, what must we do to get out of the pit of victimized thinking?  To start with we must WANT to break this pattern of dealing with life.

Awareness of our self talk is a big start in dismantling victimized thinking.  Shifting out of the victim consciousness to victor consciousness starts with a change of perspective.  We should ask ourselves what  lessons are in each of our challenging circumstances.  How did we contribute, or what can we learn from each ‘situation’?   How can we overcome obstacles and create the best life for ourselves and those we love?  We must stop disempowering ourselves by thinking that random things just ‘happen’ to us, and we have no control.  If we tend to think of the glass as always half empty in all of our dealings with life, we will always feel lack or that something’s missing. (Who drank half of my glass of water?!)  And, of course, what we look for and how we see the world is what our own internal world will feel like.  Thus, a cycle of negative thinking will create more circumstances that are challenging.  Our thinking actually draws more of what we DON’T want towards us!  These patterns may have been a part of our behavior for as long as we can remember.  And without shifting our focus out of ego driven self pitying thinking, we continue to perpetuate this pattern, and act as models to our children and future generations of negative victimized people.  Taking responsibility for our own choices, reactions and thoughts is self-empowerment, and it propels us out of the undertow of victimization, and towards joyful and abundant and VICTORious living.

Shifting perspective is a choice.  Einstein was once asked by a reporter what was one of the most important questions facing humanity today.  He replied, “I think the most important questions facing humanity is, ‘Is the universe a friendly place’?” This is a question that each of us must answer for ourselves.  And how we answer this question will be how we experience life.  If we think the universe is unfriendly, we will focus on fear, always looking over our shoulders for the bad guys and planning on being attacked.  This puts the blame and control outside of ourselves, leading to a feeling of helplessness.  If we look upon the universe (God) as indifferent, then we will experience life as if there is no purpose or meaning, only a random tumbling through life.   Einstein added, “But if we decide that the universe is a friendly place, then we will use our technology, our scientific discoveries and our natural resources to create tools and models for understanding that universe.  Because power and safety will come through understanding its workings and its motives.”  If this is the case, then everything that ‘happens’ to us is for our own well being, and in fact may be a blessing!

So, perhaps you feel it is time to cut the puppet strings, change perspectives, and take the heavy cloak of victimization off?  Maybe this has been a pattern of your behavior for as long as you can remember?  Again, it is each of our choices, and our free will to think the way we want to.  Do we choose to wallow just a bit more in the mud of self pity, as it may feel so familiar?  Or, do we choose to break free from the restrictions and constrictions of being ‘the victim’?   Do we choose our thoughts more carefully, keeping them optimistic and freeing ourselves from the shackles of our victimization mentality?  All that it takes is a shift of thinking, letting go of past programming, and moving towards the success of being victorious co-creators of life!

Christmas Reflections

Memories of Christmases past swirl by me in kaleidoscope fashion as I remove the contents of boxes surviving my divorce.

A Santa here, an angel there, from way back when my children were mere infants. My children are all grown now, and as I remove each treasured memory I realize it is not the actual physical Christmas trinket that is cherished, but more a year of my life, and each of my children are an ornament of my soul…wrapped in golden shiny paper with beautiful red and green ribbons.

The love I feel for my sweet children, grandchildren, mother, sisters, nieces and nephews, brothers in law, and friends, and even those wonderful exchange students that waltzed in and out of our lives for years are all a part of a Christmas making a beautiful tapestry of love.

Getting Past the “Past” and Surrendering

So many people are stuck in the past, totally absorbed in ‘what was’, resisting positive changes. When so much energy is used in reliving the past, we sabotage ourselves by blocking the good that can flow towards us. Allowing and surrendering to ‘what is’ right here and right now enables growth of consciousness, and new beginnings. There is much JOY in unfolding our authentic selves by living NOW in truth and awareness.

Motion Without Struggle In Life

The first time I tried to water ski, I found it a difficult feat to    accomplish. It was many years ago, and I remember trying so hard to  pull myself up and out of the water as quickly as possible.  I just knew  there were snakes around and creepy fish swimming underneath me that  I couldn’t see! I let fear overcome me and it seemed I just couldn’t find  my balance.  It took me a while to understand the concept of allowing  the boat to pull me up, instead of wasting my energy forcing myself out  of the water.  Once I finally understood this concept, I squatted with the  rope in my hands, leaned back and let the boat lift me up with ease.    Grace on skis wasn’t there yet, and that took a while to achieve.  But,  water skiing was a lot like riding a bicycle, as once you ‘got it’ you ‘got  it’.  How exhilarating it was to be propelled by the strong force of the boat and glide effortlessly over the water!

When I look back on my journey of life, I realize how many times I tried to lift myself up and out of the waters of life, the difficulties and challenges were much like the snakes and creepy things I imagined in that murky lake water.  Again and again I would lose my balance as I tried to lift myself up from my challenging life situations with only my self determination to do so.   I continuously allowed fear to take over, and I continued to lose my balance in the waters of life.  It was always such a struggle to ‘go it alone’.   All of that changed as I surrendered all my frantic useless efforts and began to co-create my new life with the source of strength I found with my higher power.  God was the force that pulled me up and out of the pit, allowing me to release and use His strength to break free and end the struggle.  My life has opened up to such new avenues of joy as a result. A little wobbly at first, but once I ‘got it’ I ‘got it’ and how amazingly exhilarating it is to be propelled through life with this loving energy!

Love Everyone – Every Day

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that


When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need
you have expressed.

They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with
guidance and support,

To aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.